Balancing the scales
“A lot of our chief concerns and major difficulties come from our inexperience with
living without drugs. Often when we ask an old timer what to do, we are amazed at
the simplicity of the answer.”
Basic Text, pp. 41-42
Finding balance in recovery is quite a bit like sitting down with a set of scales and a
pile of sand. The goal is to have an equal amount of sand on each side of the scales,
achieving a balance of weight.
We do the same thing in recovery. We sit down with the foundation of our clean time
and the Twelve Steps, then attempt to add employment, household responsibilities,
friends, sponsees, relationships, meetings, and service in equal weights so that the
scales balance. Our first try may throw our personal scales out of kilter. We may find
that, because of our over-involvement in service, we have upset our employer or our
family. But when we try to correct this problem by resigning from NA service
altogether, the other side of the scales go out of balance.
We can ask for help from members who have stabilized their scales. These people
are easy to recognize. They appear serene, composed, and self-assured. They’ll
smile in recognition at our dilemma and share how they slowed down, added only a
few grains of sand at a time to either side of the scales, and were rewarded with
balance in recovery.
Just for today: I seek balance in my life. Today, I will ask others to share their
experience in finding that balance.