Living in the present
“We want to look our past in the face, see it for what it really was, and release it so
we can live today.”
Basic Text, p.28
For many of us, the past is like a bad dream. Our lives aren’t the same any more,
but we still have fleeting, highly charged emotional memories of a really
uncomfortable past. The guilt, fear, and anger that once dominated us may spill into
our new life, complicating our efforts to change and grow.
The Twelve Steps are the formula that helps us learn to put the past in its place.
Through the Fourth and Fifth Steps, we become aware that our old behavior didn’t
work. We ask a Higher Power to relieve us of our shortcomings in the Sixth and
Seventh Steps, and we begin to be relieved of the guilt and fear that plagued us for
so many years. In the Eighth and Ninth Steps, by making amends, we demonstrate
to others that our lives are changing. We are no longer controlled by the past. Once
the past loses its control over us, we are free to find new ways to live, ways that
reflect who we truly are.
Just for today: I don’t have to be controlled by my past. I will live this new day as
the new person I am becoming.