“Our addiction enslaved us. We were prisoners of our own mind and were
condemned by our own guilt.”
Basic Text, p.7
Guilt is one of the most commonly encountered stumbling blocks in recovery. One of
the more notorious forms of guilt is the self-loathing that results when we try to
forgive ourselves but don’t feel forgiven.
How can we forgive ourselves so we feel it? First, we remember that guilt and failure
are not links in an unbreakable chain. Honestly sharing with a sponsor and with
other addicts shows this to be true. Often the result of such sharing is a more
sensible awareness of the part we ourselves have played in our affairs. Sometimes
we realize that our expectations have been too high. We increase our willingness to
participate in the solutions rather than dwelling on the problems.
Somewhere along the way, we discover who we really are. We usually find that we
are neither the totally perfect nor the totally imperfect beings we have imagined
ourselves to be. We need not live up to or down to our illusions; we need only live in
reality.
Just for today: I am grateful for my assets and accept my liabilities. Through
willingness and humility, I am freed to progress in my recovery and achieve freedom
from guilt.